Playful bullying with a clear goal: to prevent conflict.
Published on 30/08/2021
The fourth-to-sixth-grade students in Lampenberg in the canton of Baselland are fully absorbed in their assignments. Teacher Tanja Brogli walks up and down between the desks, giving a hint here, asking a question there and briefly explaining the task again. At some point, as part of a role play, she puts a yellow piece of paper on the desk of a student, which reads: “Would you like to argue with me? Come to my desk and just throw something down.”
The girl smirks and waits a moment. Then she gets up, walks to Ms. Brogli’s desk and throws down some pencils and a stapler. The teacher immediately accuses the girl of throwing the things down on purpose. The girl counters: “I didn’t do it on purpose, it was an accident!” The teacher blusters: “That’s not true, you keep throwing things of mine on the floor! I’ve had it!”
The argument continues, while the rest of the class follows the dispute attentively, until one child intervenes: “Hey, stop it! Break it up!” The child fetches the so-called argument rope, placing the teacher at one end and the girl at the other of the string, trying to mediate. “What happened, Ms. Brogli?”
Tanja Brogli regularly interrupts her lessons with such short role plays to prevent bullying and violence. Many of us may have memories of similar situations from their own school days: A classmate – or even you yourself – is a little different. Maybe a little chubby, dressed out of fashion or considered an outsider because of the parents’ religious orientation or nationality.
From today’s adult perspective, these may often seem like trivialities, but they were enough to exclude classmates from the social fabric of the class. In the old days, there was no word for it. But in sum, the constant teasing, the exercise of verbal and psychological violence against individuals is today understood as bullying.
Often, those affected try to bottle up their anger and shame, so that parents and teachers do not realize until very late – in some cases even too late – what is going on.